We're All In This Together

I saw a similar post about this topic the other day but for some reason can't remember which of my fellow mil spouse bloggers posted about this. And since I agreed completely with her post I wanted to write about it myself

As a military wife there isn't a day that goes by that I'm not proud of my husband and his career. He has gotten where he is due to his commitment, courage and strength. Once he sets his mind to something he accomplishes it and never gives up. I am proud of his rank, status and job. But yet I rarely talk about it. Why?because I don't feel that he is better than anyone else nor do I feel that it is my right to talk about his career in front of other people. If people ask what he does, what rank he is and so forth, I will discuss it but I do not freely bring it up in conversation. To me just being in the military is worthy of honor and praise. It doesn't matter what your job, rank or status is. All military men and women deserve respect.

All of my friend's have husbands with a different mos than mine, are different ranks and comprise of different units in the army. And I think that's cool. Obviously I can relate to the wives of guys in my hubs unit more since our husbands deploy together, but I love hearing about what the other wives husbands do. Because without an infantry guy, a commo guy, a medic or a parachute rigger all the pieces wouldn't come together. All the specific jobs in the military add together to comprise one whole unit. Every job is equally important and you can't do any job by yourself. You need everyone to work together.

So it bother's me when wives wear rank and brag about their husband's job and act like they are better than any one else. My mil spouse blogger bff has had some negative comments written on her blog. Her post was taken way out of context and the anonymous commenter continues to write nasty comments. She accuses my friend of talking down about her husband's deployment experience and yet has to throw in that her husband is infantry and deserves all the respect.
It's comments like that that bother me. As military wives we should all stick together. Not bash one another for our blog posts or compare rank and jobs between our husband's. In the end they are all experiencing deployments, they are all leaving behind family and friends and us wives are left to pick up the pieces and carry on at home. SO why aren't we supporting one another, providing each other with courage and strength instead of negativity. Why bash a person's opinion and experience just because you don't agree with it.

And just a disclaimer I'm only talking about one blogging incident although I do see this with a lot of wives where I am stationed. That's why I only have a few milie friends and the rest are civilians.
I will say that all my mil spouse bloggers are nothing but amazing and were always there for me when I needed to vent on my blog either about my husband's deployment or issues I face as a military spouse. I love reading y'all posts and marveling at your strength and courage as many of you are going through deployments or are just trying to cope with life as a milspouse. I am thankful that I decided to start blogging and that I can not only use it as an outlet to release all I have to say but that I was also put in touch with others experiencing the same situation that I am. It's such a great community to be apart of. And I also don't want people to think that I am being negative about those that do talk about their husbands rank or job on their blog. That's not what I am saying at all. I know that it's a way for us to talk about our pride for our husband's. I just am trying to convey the point that as military wives we are all in this together regardless of our husband's rank or status. Hope this doesn't offend anyone. And if it does that is truly not what I am trying to do