This weekend the hubs and I went over to a friend's house for a housewarming party. They had just gotten married the week before and after doing the long distance relationship for a long time she finally moved from Oregon to NC. After a few drinks a fight broke out between the newlyweds and the words Divorce and Annulment were being thrown out. Even though I felt horrible for my friends I couldn't help but stiffle a giggle for they reminded me of myself and M our first week of marriage(The newlyweds made up shortly after and are now enjoying wedded bliss) But their fight brought back a rush of memories
The hubs and I also had a long distance relationship starting from the day we met till the day we got married. Other than 2 weeks when he was on leave for Christmas we took turns flying back and forth between NC and WI every weekend. The week after our wedding was the longest time we had spent together consecutively.
We were married in Key West Florida on a Saturday and enjoyed two extra days down there before flying back to NC for a week. I had yet to move to NC since we only had a month left until M deployed so I planned on spending a week in NC, then M would fly back with me to WI for his week's leave and then I would come down the weekend he left. I remember flying back from Florida giddy with excitement about being husband and wife. Needless to say our first few days as newlyweds were rough.
M had to go back to work that week and even though he was scheduled for half days, it didn't really work out like that. The first day back M left for work and I was stuck in his apartment. I had no car and knew no one in NC and to make matter's worse M had a roommate who had a girlfriend and kid who were always over so it wasn't like I could make myself at home in the apartment. I spent my whole day laying around in M's room reading and napping. By the time he got home from work I was so bored. We also had no food in the house since we had flown in late the night before so when M walked in I jumped on him saying let's go eat, let's go do something. M had a different idea. He was tired and just wanted to stay in. When I mentioned how bored I was M snapped. I was told I could have done the laundry or made dinner while waiting for him to come home.
My immediate thoughts were, seriously we have been married 2 days and already your complaining about me not cooking and cleaning. This led to a huge argument and we went to bed angry. The next day I got up and was determined to be a good housewife. I did all of his laundry and walked the 3 blocks to the nearest grocery store where I stocked up on a week's worth of groceries. Too bad I had to push that cart all the way back in 85 degree heat up a hill. But I did it. I then planned to make a nice meal since M was going to be home early. I prepared the food and put it in 5 minutes before he was due home. An hour went by, then 2, then 3 and he still wasn't home. When he finally came home I waited for a big hug and kiss thanking me for all the wifely duties I had done that day. Instead I got a I'm tired. I want to take a nap. Ugh. I was frustrated. Once again we were in an argument instead of spending our night in bed like most newlyweds!
Eventually we resolved things and looking back I understand that now with the wedding being over, the stresses of an upcoming deployment were rearing their ugly head. Luckily we were able to enjoy the rest of my week in newly wedded bliss before enjoying another week together in WI. So when I saw my friends break out into an argument, I couldn't help but feel a little relieved that M and I weren't the only newlyweds that fought!