Tuesday, June 14, 2011

The Domestic Goddess in Me

Its official. I'm on my second day of being unemployed. Well technically I haven't worked since the end of April but the hubs has also been off with me so it felt more like vacation than my new reality. Now that he's back at work it's really sunk in. I'm unemployed!

I have worked since I was 14 years old. And the last few years after college I was in a career. It seems so strange to not be doing anything at all.

When we found out we would be moving I honestly couldn't wait to put in my notice. My job as a behavioral therapist was starting to wear on me and I was beyond burnt out emotionally and physically. Don't get me wrong I loved all the kiddos I worked with but the 10-12 hour days, constant driving around the state of NC and the office politics just got to me. And since I have been off I haven't missed the job at all. I had a fellow co worker call last week telling me she was jealous that I left, that things have gotten horrible.

Obviously I can't go into much detail but we feel that the company was turning away from their main priority, the kiddos and instead only focused on expanding. Kids programs weren't being written, kids were losing services, etc, etc. So I don't miss that at all. But again I do miss my kids. Theye been such a huge part of my life these last few years

When we became pregnant we weren't sure anyway if I would stay with my current job even if we stayed in NC. Everything I needed for work was at my own expense. Toys for clients, gas money, car repairs. I would put 600 miles on my car per week ad need to fill up 3x's. We just weren't sure how once a baby came in and we had to weigh childcare if everything would balance out. Especially with my crazy work hours.Then when we got our move dates I didn't think anyone would hire someone 8 months pregnant. And the nearest company specializing in what I did was over an hour away. So I would be facing the same issues as before. We also have to take in account that the hubs deploys frequently. So I need to find a job that's close to our home and flexible in hours.

I've been thinking about going back to school again but for what I'm not sure. I've also debated getting my real estate license. I would love to sell million dollar homes down here in destin! So we shall see what happens

Now though the hubs says my job is to relax at home before the baby comes. So yesterday morning I got up, packed him a lunch, made him coffee and kissed him goodbye. Then I cleaned the house, scrubbed the floors and did the laundry. There went my chores for the week.

Now today I'm catching up on the bachelorette from last night and debating what to do next. I know I should probably stay planted on the couch all day as I've now been considered as a possible high risk pregnancy due to my blood pressure. so I guess that's what Ill do. Maybe I'll even start reading one of my million books on labor I bought.

But ladies those who adjusted to being a stay at home wife or mommy. Did you find it hard at first? Do you regret it at all?

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  1. I love being home! Then again, I'm a writer, so I do spend the morning "working" before spending the rest of the day keeping busy. When my husband is home, we have a great schedule going, and I get into a good routine. The first few days kind of suck but just fill your time with errands and chores and you'll keep busy enough.

  2. Even though I'm not 8 months pregnant I know exactly how you feel. I felt like I lost a little bit of myself when I stopped working. There are days when I wish I was working but other days I'm happy that I have the ability to stay home.

  3. I just started my maternity leave and while it's relaxing, it feels weird to not be working and helping to provide for us. I like being able to do more cooking and cleaning, but I think that novelty will probably wear off.... I'll let you know after the baby is born lol.

  4. I think it would be awesome if you got your real estate license! I've always thought that would be a really sweet job. Good luck with whatever you decide!

  5. I stayed home when my first baby was born and have not gone back to work. Being a stay at home mom isn't easy and does require sacrifice, but I'm pretty sure at the end of my life when I look back on things I won't say, "wow, i sure wish I had had a career instead of staying home with my children". I kind of decided that the time I have with them is precious and short and I just can't share that time with a job :)