When the hubs and I broke the news that we were engaged my parents were less than thrilled. They had a list of reasons why we shouldn't get married. Although I was 24 they thought I was too young, my dad was convinced M was only marrying because married soldiers make more money(the 100 bucks I added to M's paycheck isn't alot Dad) and they thought we were being foolish and rushing into things.
I understand now they were just being protective of me but at the time it was very irritating. Especially since my parents and I had had many of conversations about my wedding a few years past. I remember waking up one morning after a friends wedding. I had been a bridesmaid and my parents had attended this wedding as my friendship with this girl goes way back. My parents commented on how beautiful her wedding was and then my dad dropped the bomb that since they helped pay for college I would be on my own for my wedding. Both mom and dad then laughed and said that knowing me I'd call them one day from some airport to let them know I eloped with a guy I had known for a few months
If only they knew then how true their words were. I was always a spontaneous sort of person. I randomly made last minute decisions and did everything at the spur of the moment. I wasn't reckless, didn't engage in bad behavior and def guarded my heart carefully. I was cautious when entering relationships and was never one to date a guy just to have someone in my life. However I knew what I was looking for and when I met M I knew he was the one. Since I knew it was a given that we would get married their wasn't any point in dragging out our engagement especially since M was deploying soon.
So back to my parents reaction. I think throughout the whole engagement they tried to change my mind. Especially once we told them the way we planned on getting married. My strict catholic parents were against our destination wedding. My dad wanted us to get married in Wisconsin at our church. But we were paying for our wedding and M isn't particularly religious so we stuck with our original plan of a destination wedding.
My dad's mom also wasn't thrilled and once again thought we were rushing Into it. She refused to come to my wedding stating it was because she was afraid to fly. My dad offered to drive her and my grandpa down to Florida but she refused that too.
Eventually my parents came around and the love M to death. They know how happy we are and still comment on how they loved our wedding. My grandma on the other hand refuses to talk about it. She never asked to look at pictures and when M deploys constantly tells other people that she doesn't feel bad for me since I should have known what I got myself into
So when my cousin became engaged I knew my grandma would focus only on Stephs wedding and turn it into the wedding of the century. My grandma fussed over this wedding like crazy. Anytime I called it was all she could talk about. Your cousin is going to be a beautiful bride, this wedding is going to be amazing, my first granddaughter to get married. Umm actually I was grandma, thanks for remembering
What's even funnier is that my cousin got engaged to a guy from england. When he goes home to visit his family Steph does not go with him leaving my grandma to tell everyone how she doesn't know how my cousin can be apart from her fiancé and how hard it is for her. Ugh my grandma can be so frustrating
And my poor cousin, whom I love to death had to deal with my grandma constantly trying to plan her wedding. I must admit that as we got ready for her big day it was hard watching my grandma get so teary eyed and emotional when she couldn't even be present at mine. But I held my tongue, shed a few tears in the bathroom and celebrated my cousins wedding.
And although my grandma didn't come to my wedding and at times she is overbearing and rude, i know she would do anything for me. I think deep down she feels bad about not coming to my wedding but she will never bring it up. And I choose to not bear a grudge. After all M and I got married the way we wanted to. At the end of the day a wedding is about a couple starting their new life together and that's all that really matters!
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