At 520am we rolled into NC. It was a long 16 hour drive. We immediately unpacked the car and then passed out in our bed. Let me tell you how nice it was to not be sleeping on an air mattress or a couch. What isn't fun is the amount of laundry and cleaning along with grocery shopping that needs to be done before heading back to work tomorrow. But oh well that's the price of vacation
All in all we had a nice vacation although it wasn't what we quite had in mind. We both needed and wanted a relaxing vacation, time spent together since it had been so long since we had seen each other. However we had a total of 2 days out of 15 together. The rest was spent with family members and friends. It was so nice to be around our families and to be able to spend all the time we wanted with them but in a way being home increased our stress and anxiety level
When we first planned this trip four months ago we told our friends and family the dates we would be in town. Some called to set up plans, others didn't. We went into this trip agreeing that this trip wouldn't be a repeat of our Christmas vacation. That week home was spent running around trying to fit everyone in. We literally had breakfast, lunch and dinner plans with different people that whole week we were in town. We agreed that this trip unless people had made plans with us we weren't going to feel bad bout not seeing everyone. After all we just spent the last 4 months apart and needed time alone. I know it's important we see our family but M and I need time to ourselves. Especially since M will be busy in a training class for the next 3 months and deploying in 6.
Of course our plan didn't work. People became upset when we didn't see them, plans fell through or weren't made and drama ensued. This left M and I arguing with each other and debating about whether or not to cut short our trip to WI and just drive back to NC. And just like Christmas we spent our last few days in town trying to cram everyone.
It was almost relaxing to drive back to NC yesterday! I know it comes with the territory of living away from our family that when we come into town everyone wants a piece of us and for me I'm still not used to living away from my family and friends. I want to see every body and yet I get upset when the hubs and I don't spend time alone. M is used to living away as he's done it for 6 years longer than me so when it comes to seeing everyone he doesn't get to upset if we can't fit it all in. I on the other hand hate knowing that people feel left out when we couldn't see them. It's a constant struggle between family and my husband.
How do you all balance family and quality time with the hubby
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