The hubs and I have a very tough decision to make within the next few months. Come October we only have 2 years left in the army. By the time he gets out in October 2012 he will have been in for 10 years. Halfway to retirement. Who would have thought the decision to reenlist would be so hard
When the discussion of reenlisting was brought up before I would always shout out a loud "Reenlist"! I love being an army wife, I love this military lifestyle and I'm so proud of my hubby for everything that he does. And the reenlistment bonus isn't such a bad thing either!! We could pay off our debt, buy a house at our next PCS station, be financially stable for kids, etc, etc. Not to mention the job security, health insurance and pension a career in the military would allow. I know I can handle deployments, we've gone through 2 already and have another one coming up within the next few months. I also know how good at my job my hubby is, how much he loves it and I don't want to tell him to get out and later on have him resent me
But lately I've been having second thoughts. It all started when I watched Army Wives the other night. The thoughts of the hubby deploying back to Afghanistan scares the shit out of me. M already has lost a best friend, witnessed countless IED explosions and had a guy get shot standing right next to him. His last two trips to Afghanistan were horrible. I got daily emails and phone calls about the loss of life within his unit. It's amazing what you can forget after awhile. But while watching Army Wives all those memories began to resurface. How can I tell my husband to reenlist and to send him back there. It's not like 15 years ago when there wasn't a war going on. Now being a military spouse literally means sending your husband off to war. Repeatedly. How can I do that again?
In the end I know we will weigh the pro's and con's and have several discussions about the topic. However I feel like I shouldn't have that much say in the matter. I feel that the decision should be left up to him. I'm not the one going off to war, I'm the one that stays behind. So to all you milspouses out there, do you and your hubby's have this conversation. How did you decide to either stay in or get out? I'd love to hear from y'all