So with a baby on the way and an upcoming PCS there are a lot of decisions to be made. As of now we may possibly be moving in May and I would like to be done working sometime on April so I can go home to WI for a bit and then come back to Nc and start packing and getting ready for the move. Truth be told I am ready to be done working
I remember before I was pregnant thinking to myself that once I got pregnant I wouldn't let work suffer. Who was I kidding. I've let it suffer big time though I tried my best not to. But when u work with kids with severe behavioral problems, kids who only want to be picked up or chased around and kids who aren't interested in anything at all I have found my patience is slim and I'm exhausted. Throw in morning sickness and migraines every day and it's a long day. Now don't get me wrong I love my job but I have asked my boss to decrease my hours. My normal work day is 9-6 add to that a 45 commute to work and back along with driving in between kiddos houses daily my work day equals about 10 hours or so. So really I leave the house around 815 and don't get home until 7. So I asked my boss if there was anyway that I can get a replacement for my last kiddo of the day and end my work day at 430. Well no one wants to work late so that never happened. Then yesterday I find out there cutting my afternoon kids. So every day I'll have a break from 12-2. Now I'm sure some of you are wandering why that's a problem. The problem is that my mornings kids live about 30-45 minutes away from my house and the main part of town. So even if I wanted to go home
On my break or go workout I'd still have at least a 30 min drive to town and then a 30 min drive back to see my afternoon kiddos from 230-6. So really it's even more driving on my part, more mileage and gas for the car and I'm still getting home late
Well hubs wasn't too happy about this change in schedule seeing as we need to save up for baby and the move.
So now I feel torn. Do I still drop my late kiddo, which would enable me to have my life back. More time at home at night to relax or do I keep this schedule until I out in my notice
And then I got to thinking about what to do after the baby is born. I had always thought I'd go back to work but I'm leaning towards staying home for awhile. And then when I think about that i think about our bills and my student loans that hubby would be the one responsible paying for and im torn even more. So how did yall make the decision to stay home or go back to work.
Its such a hard one to make!
I am looking forward though to being done with work here, moving and spending lots of quality time with the hubby before baby is born!
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For me the decision was easy because I wouldn't have earned enough to even cover the cost of daycare. So staying home saved money. It is more then possible to live on one income, but you have to be willing to give up and sacrifice depending on the lifestyle you live now and what you consider necessary vs. luxury.
ReplyDeleteSo many decisions for you guys to make! I can't imagine having to figure all of that out right now. I really hate that your job is so demanding and frustrating. With M being gone and you being pregnant you must just feel exhausted all the time. Will you please post a belly pic soon!?!? :) Hope you're doing well blogger BFF!! Email me when you have some time! Miss you!
ReplyDeleteI am like Jessa, I tried to work after having the Wee One, but the cost of daycare was ridiculous and we were losing money with me working. Sure, things are a little tight, but you get used to the new budget and find ways to pay all the bills with no issues. However, it ultimately comes down to what you and your husband decide is best for your new growing family, and what you can handle.
ReplyDeleteI was/am a teacher. I decided to stay home the first year as I really fell that is so important for our babies & if we could live off of 1 salary then why not? It was tough not running out to eat when I didn't feel like cooking but the benefits where great!I didn't miss any firsts & was able to video several for my soldier who was gone a lot. I tried going back to work teaching when the baby was 18 months. I was exhausted & had nothing to give when I got home around 5 every night. I threw take out on the table & crawled into bed. It lasted for one year, one year I can never get back! We decided then to have another baby & we would just suck it up & live off of one income. I have never regretted it for one moment.
ReplyDeleteWhen you are in a profession that is all give, it's hard to come home & continue to give to your own family. So just take your time & you'll know what's right for you eventually.
I went back to work when my son was 8 weeks. I worked at the CDC on base, so I was right next door. In a way I wish I would have just quit and stayed home. When he was 5 months, I put in my two weeks, and took the summer off before we moved back to Texas. It was a great summer!
ReplyDeleteWhen we moved back to Texas I had to get a job, since we bought a new house and everything. It worked out great. My son loves the CDC and has learned so much there. Our fees to have him there aren't bad at all and I make more than enough money to have $$ left over.
SO, I did both, went back to work then quit, then went back. I would recommend taking some time off before like you said, and then maybe taking the 1 year off.
Good luck :)
It's amazing what being pregnant has done to my patience as well. Working with kids is tough, especially when you're tired and not feeling like yourself. Try not to worry about making a fast decision about staying home or not. You'll figure out what's right for you and your husband when the timing comes! It'll all fall into place!
ReplyDeleteIt is a tough decision. I went back to work when my oldest was 8 weeks old. It was vey hard to do but at the time I had too. After a year I quit to stay home and now 5 years later, I am still here. Its the best decision I have ever made and do not regreat it at all. =) It does require a lot of budgeting and some sacrifices, but so very worth it.
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