I need advice!!
I am standing up in two weddings. One is my cousin's S's which is this summer on July 31st. The other wedding is my college roommates which is in July of 2011. I just paid for my cousin's dress and didn't think I would have to worry about the dress for my friend's wedding for at least a few months. Last time I had spoken with her she had not picked out our dresses yet
Sunday night I received an email from her stating that she found the dress she would like us to purchase. The price tag is awesome, only $80.00 but the dress is being discontinued and we need to buy it within the next two weeks!!
Ouch. Normally I wouldn't have a problem with the $80.00 but since I paid for my cousin's dress this past week and am going on a work conference this coming week, money is a little tight. TO make matter's worse tax season is upon us and this is my first year as a 1099 employee. Which means that since my paycheck's don't get taxed I will be paying out alot to the government. Since we don't know yet how much we owe, we are trying to limit our spending. It also doesn't help that our tax fund has dwindled due to the fact that in September I was in a car accident and totaled my car and that in October after having a creepy neighbor take pictures of me on his i-phone and having our apartment complex being canvased by a gang of criminals who proceeded to pull a gun out while we were taking the dogs for a walk we decided we needed to move to a safer location. So we had to pay to get out of our lease and then pay a security deposit and first months rent at our new apartments all within a few weeks. There went our tax money. WE have been building up our account again but I still cannot spend the money on her dress until we have done our taxes.
I explained this all to her in a detailed email. She hasn't called or anything until this morning when I received an email from her saying this is the only time we can get the dress. I don't know what to do. Do I tell her than that I won't be able to stand up in her wedding? How would y'all feel if one of your bridesmaids weren't able to purchase the dress?
I had a bridesmaid drop out of my wedding and it hurt that she couldn't be in it and I do feel awful about not getting the dress but at the same time I feel that two weeks isn't much notice.
What are your thoughts on this?