Yesterday I wrote about selfishness and motherhood. How we can get caught up in the trap of putting our wants and needs before our children. As I continued to read further in the chapter of the book I quoted yesterday there was a section on finding time for yourself.
In order to give the best of ourselves to our children we need time for ourselves. When we feel refreshed, calm and happy we give that to our children.
Excerpt from Desperate:Hope for the mom who needs to breathe
" Day in and day out we give to our children, and it's a privilege to do so. I'm thankful for the opportunity to pour into my children, but when we choose to give the best of ourselves to them, we will need a break or we will break. We will become desperate".
"I used to think me time, has selfish connotations but I think it's more selfish to go crazy and then to be fully alive for your children"
So Find a way to get out. Find your happy place, your soul filling and go."
This book was just what I needed to read. After throwing myself a pity party and lamenting on how I never get a break I needed to read about how being a parent requires work and sacrifice. I also needed to have confirmation that it is ok to want and need a break and to go out and get one. A refreshed mommy is a better mommy to her kids. So I am taking that break and going out tomorrow to get a massage and a hair cut which I haven't done in about a year. Then I can come home, refreshed and relaxed to by the mom that I want to be. Not a shell of a mom who wants to lay on the couch all day and do nothing!!