My daughter hates her crib. In prolly to blame for that since we've been co sleeping since she was a newborn but it was what was easier for me at the time. At around 6 months we started putting Gianna in her crib when she first fell asleep at night. It took a few days to stay Asleep when I placed her in her crib but for a good few weeks she'd sleep from 730-1. And then I'd pull her into bed with me.
Then the hubs left at the end of January and her sleeping in her crib the first half of the night was out the window. Maybe not so much due to him being gone but around that time Gianna got her molars in and had her first ear and upper respiratory infection. All the books I read said to stop sleep training when teething is occurring or due to sickness so I did. And back in bed with me she went. Plus she also learned to stand up and pull herself up on her crib and I needed the hubs to lower it
Now that he's home we decided its time to start sleep training again. Although the hubs is all talk. If I lay her in her crib he goes and gets her. Usually he let's her sleep on the couch next to him. That worked fine until two nights ago she rolled off and landed on her head. Mommy fail
So last night I said it was time to really stick with sleep training and let her cry it out. She fell asleep when nursing at 730. I'm talking mouth open, snoring away deeply sleeping. I placed her in her crib and immediately the eyes popped open and the screaming began. I waited the 20 mins and went in. Placed her on her back and sang and rubbed her tiny until she fell asleep. She slept from 830-1145 and woke up. I wet to feed her and the same thing occurred. Though this time. Nothing worked. I rubbed her back, her belly, turned on the sleep sheep, left the room, sat by the crib, etc etc. she was not having it. She screamed her head off until 1am when I just gave up and pulled her into bed with me.
And for someone who barely slept last night she was wide awake at 545. This mommy is tired
I don't know what todo anymore. I think I've read every sleep book, tried everything. Nothing works. I don't feel it's healthy for her to scream her head off for over an hour. We wouldn't want to fall Asleep like that. Scared and alone. But I do know she does need to learn how to fall asleep on her own
Advice please!!!
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I feel your pain girl! I have to say that there is an amazing forum on Babycenter.com called "Teaching Your Baby and Toddler to Sleep" that has great information (more useful than any of the sleep books - and I've read them all too!) and a ton of moms who have successfully trained the worst sleepers willing to help you. Just make a post describing your issues, what you've tried, and Gianna's typical schedule and they should help you out.
ReplyDeleteWe have been doing that too. Except Liam usually winds up in bed at some point because I fall asleep feeding him...oops.. What has helped us sometimes is he has the glowing seahorse (if you know what that is?) that plays lullaby's. Have you tried any soothing toy type thing? That's really the only advice I have because we are trying to get it to work as well haha. Good luck!!
ReplyDeleteI second the soft music, soft light suggestion with a toy like the glowing worm or seahorse. My oldest niece was the same way when she was a baby and I would just keep her near me till 4 or 3 am in the morning sometimes in the living room rocking her, but as soon as she closed her eyes, put her in the crib, and she would bounce right back up. Def. in that situation no one was getting any sleep, so we just bit the bullet, put her in the crib every night, let her cry some, took I want to say a month, she slowly got used to it. It was hard to hear her cry, but the night light/soft ocean music really helped her transition! If we didn't have that she probably would of just never felt comfortable sleeping by herself in the crib.
ReplyDeletehave you noticed what her self soothing techniques are? maybe put a lot of emphasis on them?? and associate bed time with those.
ReplyDeleteHi! I randomly found your blog from Tara's. we had the same issues with ours and while it was younger I had to put my foot down or I was never sleeping again. They say the older the baby gets the harder it gets but its not too late. We did with the first and then second. Schedule is the important thing. Even with Naps and eating during the day. Stick with the daytime schedule for a few days. Then one night, do your night time routinue (swaddle, bath, bottle, what you want to do each night. We donot bath her each night so make that not a part of the routine but I know I alot of folks do:-P) Then kiss her and tell her night night... Shut door. Its best if your husband is there so he can tell you are not a bad mom. Or atleast it helped me. Don't open for anything except feeding (if you still do the middle of the night and make it the same time) Feed, no talking lights off, kiss,love you.. shut the door. Night one is bad, Night two is better, night three is better, night four.... sleep. If you just try for five days and it would be worth it. If she is still crying after day 5 then try something differnet. I bet money she wont. :-) Good Luck.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure you don't want to read another book, but my friend gave me "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" and it has some good, common sense stuff. I would recommend that.
ReplyDeleteAre you making sure she's getting enough naps during the day?
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