Are you all as excited as I am for the Sex and the City 2 Movie to come out. I've watched the trailer like 5 times already and I must say one comment Carrie makes really struck a nerve with me
The comment was this.. Big and I have become Mr and Mrs Married. We have to work on the sparkle in our relationship. What happens after you say I do
I guess with M being gone I have had a lot of extra time to think about things. And I have come to the following conclusion, M and I have become Mr and Mrs Married. Now I realize that this comes off negatively but I dont mean anything bad by that at all. I love M with all my heart and I love our marriage. We have an awesome relationship, we laugh and joke and can have serious conversations and are so open with each other about everything. M is truly my best friend. However I want to change some things about our relationship. And I am starting now..
M and I spent the first year of marriage apart due to him being deployed. We had our fair share of ups and downs but came out strong because of it. Then our 1 year anniversary was spent moving me down to NC. You would think that with us finally being together after a year we would spend every waking moment together doing fun couple things. Reality sets in after awhile and besides getting adjusted to him being home and us living together, I also had to adjust to a new town, living away from family and friends, finding and starting a new job and also starting school right away. M also was preparing for a vigorous training program for his job that required a lot of his personal time. Quality time for us became watching an hour of tv together before going to bed.
Now that I am done with school and changing my work week to four long days of work instead of six, I am implementing a change in our marriage. I want to start having date night and going out on the town with my hubby and having a few drinks, or taking weekend trips to various places and enjoying our time together. I expressed this to M and he agreed. I want to take the time to be spontaneous and romantic and carefree while we can. Especially since M will be deploying again shortly after he comes back.
M himself dropped a bombshell on me yesterday. After emailing him and telling him about S's baby on friday, M replied that will be you soon. What?? Four weeks ago M wanted nothing to do with babies and I was the one all for trying to get pregnant. Until yesterday, yesterday he calls me up and tells me he is ready to have kids and wants to start trying soon. Now I'm not so sure. I love babies and can't wait to have them with M but right now I love him more and want to make sure we enjoy time together while it's just us before adding kids to the mix.
I know this makes me sound really selfish. But I feel that M and I have spent more time apart than together and I don't want to miss out on anything.
So readers, I have a question for you. What really happens after you get married. How do you hold on to that sparkle and make it last? And am I being selfish by wanting to put off adding to our family for a bit. And to those with children, am I being unreasonable? How do you sustain a awesome marriage after the arrival of kids!