So Over It

When my husband first told me he would be deploying, I was excited. Now before you all write me off as a heartless person let me explain.

The last time my hubby deployed we had been married for only a month. Even though it was M's 7th deployment it was my first and our first as a married couple. I stayed in WI with my family and friends and had no one there that had every gone through a similar situation. M and I fought constantly and were horrible to each other. Obviously we worked out all of the problems we encountered during that deployment and our relationship only got stronger because of what we had faced. I knew that when he deployed again we would be ready for it. So when we got the news that he would be leaving I was excited to not only prove to myself that I could handle a deployment I was excited to prove to him that we could make it through this deployment without any of the problems we had before

And we have. Our communication has greatly improved. Last deployment if I missed a phone call I would beat myself up about it and we would get irritated at the other for either not calling or not answering. This time we set up a time for M to call and if one of us was busy we would email the other to let them know and not get upset about things. If we did get into a minor argument we got off the phone before it would escalate and talk to each other later on in the day. We have spent our phone conversation planning activities to do when M gets back and just making sure we let the other person know how much we miss each other

I have also surprised myself with how I have handled this deployment. After all this time I am away from my family and living in an apt by myself. I threw myself into work and school and have the most amazing friends that are always there for me when I need them. My friends and I have at least one night a week we get together for dinner and we are always together on the weekend. My hubby laughs at me because I am always on the go and never do anything to relax but for me the busier I am the faster the time goes.

I also have found a part of me again. A part of me that I hadn't realized was missing. This past year I was so concerned about being the perfect wife, friend, employee and student that sometimes my priorities were out of whack. I spent alot of time trying to maintain friendships that were never meant to be, I focused all my energy on work and school and then would feel guilty if I didn't have enough time to give to my hubby. IF I spent a lot of time with the hubby I felt that I should be studying more or working more. I never took the time to enjoy what I was doing.

This deployment made me realize what is truly important and has helped me realign my priorities. I can't wait for M to come home and be able to spend all of our time together. School is over and I am cutting back on my work hours this summer. I am finally getting to be more like the care free girl I was when M and I went instead of always stressed and anxious. Even M has commented on the change. It has been nice to feel more like me again. I have started reading a lot again, working out more and eating a more balanced diet. I also have spent time with my amazing friends and our relationships have grown. I have finally found my group of friends here in NC who I can't imagine not having in my life. I am def in a happy place right now

However I am def over this deployment. Remember a few months ago I posted my list of things I was excited to do now that the hubs will be gone, you know things like sleeping with the tv on, watching girlie movies and reality tv without being made fun of, not cooking, etc

Well those things have all gotten old. I am ready for the hubs to come home so it is him I am sleeping next too not the dogs. I am ready to have someone to watch tv with again and someone to go out with during the weekend. I miss my babe and am ready for him to be home

I am officially over this deployment

Summer Reading List

Summer is fast approaching. School is almost out and in just 9 days I start my summer work schedule. This means I will no longer be working Friday or Saturday. I am def looking forward to a four day work week and a 3 day weekend.

When I was a kid you knew summer was starting when my local library had their summer book club. I couldn't wait to go into the library and join. Every book you read had to be recorded and when you read so many books you earned certain prizes. I lived for this every summer

As an adult I am still addicted to reading. If fact I knew my hubby was the one by his love of books. I still remember visiting his apartment for the first time and instead of a huge flat screen tv plastered to his wall or Scarface poster's there was a huge bookshelf(the same one I had to be exact) full of books). That was it for me. He was the one!

With the hubby gone for about another month and a half I will be spending my three day weekends pool side with a good book. Just thought I would share them with y'all

Currently Reading
Definitely Dead by Charlaine Harris

Summer Reading List

The Sookie Stackhouse Series by Charlaine Harris
All Together Dead
From dead to worse
Dead and Gone
Dead in the Family

The Help by Kathryn Stockett
Grownup Marriage by Judith Voight
First Comes Love by Whitney Lyles
A Bumb in the Road by Maureen Lipinski
Not Ready for Mom Jeans by Maureen Lipinski
Rattled by Christine Coppa
Savor the Moment by Nora Roberts
Pieces of Happily Ever After by Irene Zurell
Angelology by Danielle Trussoni
Naturally Thin by Bethenny Frankel
Uncharted Territori by Tori Spelling
House Rules by Jodi Picoult
Something Borrowed by Emily Giffin
Something Blue by Emily Giffin
Love the One Your With by Emily Giffin

If there are any titles you think I need to add let me know! I am always on the lookout for a good book

Also I have spoken with a few of you about the Nook. Barnes and Nobles E-Reader. Do any of you have it and if so is it worth getting. I went and looked at it and loved it. The amount of money you will save buying e-books instead of regular books is amazing but at the same time I know there are certain author's who I will need to run out and get their newest books. So I want to make sure I'd use it before going out and spending the money on it. So what do ya'all think. Is it worth it? Do you love or hate it?

Happy Reading

Updates and Memorial day recap

Hello everyone!

I hope y'all had a great memorial day weekend. I had to work on memorial day but on Saturday I went downtown to where the Special Operation Museum. They had the grounds decorated with hundreds of flags commemorating veterans. It was beautiful. I spent the rest of my saturday napping and then I went to babysit my friends kiddo's so they could go out for their anniversary. Babysitting a 16 month old and a 5 month old was actually easier than I thought. Too be honest it was quite fun. Def gave me the baby itch

Sunday I had friends over to enjoy the pool. My one friend makes the best Sangria so needless to say we spent a better part of the afternoon laying out and drinking yummy sangria. We also grilled out and it was nice to eat an actual meal for once!

Yesterday after I got off work I had my friend's hubby come over to do some repairs around the house since the hubs is gone. My blinds are fixed and the hard to reach light bulbs are changed. I also finally finished decorating my bedroom and the guest bedroom just in time for my parents visit next weekend. Today after work I even went and rented the Rug dr and shampooed the whole apt. It's been quite a productive few days

So you know how I have mentioned my baby moon to the Dominican Republic. Well I don't think that is going to happen anymore. M still hasn't gotten his leave dates and we had hoped to book the trip this week. Also after doing some thinking I think we should probably do the grown up thing and save money and continue to pay off debt instead of taking a trip. So we compromised and are probably going to go to Destin Florida since in a year we will be moving there. Now the hard part is going to be finding a place to rent that allows two big dogs. So if any of you know of a place to rent in that area let me know

And finally, remember how I have said before that Emily Giffin is my favorite author. Well this past weekend she came into my home town. I had asked my mom a few weeks before if she would go to the signing and get my book signed by her. Well my mom planned on going but then my dad wanted to go up north for the weekend so she had asked if it was ok if she didn't make it. I understood and totally forgot that Friday was the day Emily Giffin was in Milwaukee. Friday night I went to a friends house before going to see SATC2 and as we were leaving for the movie I pulled out my phone and saw I had a voicemail message. Assuming it was my mom I started to listen to it. It was EMILY GIFFIN calling from the book signing. My mom had ended up going and told Emily Giffin about how much I loved her books and she had my mom call my cell so she could say hi. It was so cool!She even said she was planning on coming to Charlotte in a few weeks for a book signing. I've been searching all over the internet for when she will be in Charlotte and where but have come up with nothing. SO hopefully the date will be put out soon. I am def going!! So if any of you are from the Charlotte area and hear anything about it let me know!!!