Making the decision to become a stay at home mom wasn't an easy one. It was def one we sat down and discussed for awhile.
In fact before having a baby I never wanted to be a SAHM. I worked hard through college working on my degree and then later on establishing my professional career. And with a crap load of student loans I knew that making the decision to stay at home wasn't going to be an easy one
But it was the best one. Since Gianna has been born the hubs has been gone 4 months out of her 8. That's 4 months of me being a single parent 24/7. And each time he's left and came home has been an adjustment period for Gianna. I knew that being married to someone in the military was hard. Having children with someone in the military is harder. One parent is always coming or going, working crazy shifts and gone for long periods on end. The hubs and I decided we wanted at least one constant in our child's life. So we decided I wouldn't go back to work. It's been hard. Going from two good incomes down to one has been an adjustment. We are budgeting for the first time ever and our lifestyle has changed greatly. But I wouldn't regret it for the world
When I worked I thought SAHM's were lazy. Ha I laugh at myself back then. I'm more exhausted now than ever. With a child that barely sleeps, and being 3 months pregnant I don't know how I make it through the day. It's def difficult staying home. More difficult than I thought. And yes some days I do wish I was working and I desolately need a break from my child. But then she reaches for me and smiles at me and I melt. It's all worth it
And I def don't think being a working mom is easy. I can't imagine working full time again and then coming home to be a full time mom. Your job truly never ends. You leave one to go to another. Major props!
So in the end this whole SAHM debate is pointless. Each choice is hard and one that every individual has to make. We should all just support each other as moms. Whether we work or stay at home it's a decision left for every family to make.
I do disagree however that being a SAHM makes you unaware of the economic crisis going on in the world or that we can't relate to those in the work force. I can because I did work and established myself in my field. Now I just made a different choice to benefit my family. And I think that's honorable. Will I be out of the work force forever. No.
And I do feel that no matter what decision one makes you will always feel guilty about not choosing the other option. Such is life
But I support all moms. Working and SAHM. Each is hard in and of itself. So let's support each other instead of bringing each other down
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